Sometimes you could be in a relationship with someone whose other special people don't like you.Maybe there's something you did that put them off. Maybe they just don't like you for a reason so silly that they are too embarrassed to disclose. Someone could dislike you just because you keep wearing the same coat all the time. Or because you leave lipstick on the cup brim. Or just because...
THE FAMILY
You would like your partner's family and friends to like you. Most people want to bond with the other people who matter to their partner's. You want to feel at home even if your partner is not present in a family and friends gathering.
There's almost nothing you can do to be liked but you could try. You don't want to feel awkward when you are with them.
They might not like you but you must try your best to get on well with them. If you get along nicely, that means you will have fun at the gatherings and they could at least appreciate your presence.
Be Helpful
Try to help out whichever way you can. Financially, emotionally, spiritually. Be helpful. When they are preparing the chairs for a wedding, help out. When you help out you get a chance to give and take instructions. You should also give suggestions. Don't be standing there watching people struggle as if you were an outsider. The best way to fit in is by showing that you belong there too.
Give Compliments
Tell someone she/he looks sharply dressed. Say something nice about the house...about the food. Compliments can cheer a dull soul. Do not be mean with those nice words.
Be Friendly
Even if you are the grumpy type you should loosen up a bit while with your partner's family.You should smile or even laugh with them. Friendly people are liked more.
Give them Presents
Presents make relations warm. Give them presents but do not go out of your way. Keep it within your means. While you want to please you want a habit you can keep up with. Give simple gifts.
Do not show up too often
Familiarity breeds contempt.Showing up all the time is a sure way to win dislike and disrespect. Absence sure makes the heart grow fonder. Let them miss you. And of course do not move in with them.
Treat your Partner Right
If you have been good to their child they will gradually like you too. But if all they hear from their child is about the negative things you keep on doing and saying they will not like you.
FRIENDS
If you found your partner with tight friends and they don't like you that relationship will not last. You would think your partner would choose you over them and some do choose the partners over their friends only to run back to those friends when the relationship doesn't work out.
Do Not Show up at their Meetings
Unless you have been invited.
Yes you are dating one of them but unless they are your friends too let them have their time alone. Just because that person is your partner doesn't mean you force yourself into their social circle too. Have your own life too. If you are an introvert, find something to do as your partner catches up with his/her friends.
Be Comfortable with, and around, them
Dont Gossip about your friend to anyone including your partner
Let them be. Be a yes, no person when your partner is talking about the friends.Gossip is sweet but never ever be drawn into it when it comes to talking about friends or family. They are going to find out about what you said and you have to defend yourself and they might not even listen to your explanations.
Don't Fight them
If you have issues with them let your partner handle them. Trust that your partner will have your back when the friends are coming for you. Getting into quarrels woth your partnet's friends will make you very unpopular.
TREAT 'THEIR PERSON' WELL
Just focus on your partner. Do not be distracted by the friends, treat your partner well. May your relationship inspire the friends.
Accept them
Host them sometimes. Accept that they are your partner's friends and allow them to visit your house.
