REASONS WHY SOME OVER 30s ARE STILL SINGLE

Society has been watching you ever since you were in your mid-20s. Just waiting for you to get married. Your siblings and most of your friends are married, engaged or in relationships but you are still single. No one has seen you hanging around a prospective date in ages. And you are probably not even sad about it. Maybe sometimes you feel like you could enjoy some company and attention from a member of the opposite gender but the next day you wake up feeling happy about your singlehood so your yester-desires fade away like that.



Most people living like this fall in the following brackets among many more;





Career and Financial Ambitions that the Person wants to Achieve First

Maybe you imagine dating and even marriage will derail your plans. You have been pursuing your dreams for ages and you still haven't realised that time is moving too. You probably don't even have a goal. Your achievements do not even have a timeline yet you want to settle after you complete everything you intend to do.


Goodluck!




Being Seriously Broke

Romance without money is not about gold-digging it's just the reality. This not only affects men, but women too. You need money to surprise, impress, maintain and sustain but if you are too broke all that would seem like a burden to you.


You probably will try getting into a relationship when your financial situation improves.





Being a Single Parent

Sometimes being a parent could keep you from dating. When the child (ren) are very young you are probably looking for someone to help you co-parent and the people you meet might not be eager to take up such a serious role. Your standards and expectations of a partner are a bit higher than they were when you weren't a parent.


You take relationships casually because you want to put your child(ren) first, you do not want to force someone into your family and that's fine but you might put some people off because they do not feel needed.





Just Coming out of a Long Term Relationship

Some relationships are so solid that when the couple breaks up it feels like a divorce. These are the types of relationships that people just know would definitely end in marriage. You probably even have a child or children together.



Such relationships can keep someone single for a while. Sometimes even a very very long while.You probably like the freedom or you do not want to move on from that person or you are hoping that you will get back together so you leave that vacuum for the ex as you involve yourself in casual relationships.





Most of the Friends and Family Members are Still Single

You might need a special trap to get you out of your singlehood if most of the members in your circle are single. You probably enjoy hanging with them. You know if you get married you will have to cut some ties and maybe you don't want that.


Sometimes if the company you keep is of single persons, even your relationships don't work because they could scheme to have you back. They fear that if you get in a relationship they will miss you!




Unrealistic Standards

Having standards is fine. Everyone has standards. But if you are looking to meet someone who doesn't exist you will definitely stay single. Especially if you are vain. Maybe looking for someone who looks like a certain celebrity...challenge yourself and date that celebrity instead of looking for someone whom you would want to transform into the person you want.



Meet people for whom they are and if you are physically attracted to them, appreciate them as they are then consider a relationship.


*Physical attractiveness is very important especially during sex.





Bad Personality
Maybe you are undateable. Maybe you are short-tempered or mean or grumpy. Maybe you go on a date once and you never hear from that person again because you are just not a good person. You personality rating is at zero.



It's never too late to learn how to relate with people. There's no personality that is deep-rooted unless it's a disorder. Some people were born charming and friendly, some people acquired those personality traits with time. They taught themselves and those quality stuck. The "this is who I am..." statement is just a rude way of making excuses for your bad personality and that's why you are undateable.




Maybe the Person Does Enjoy Being Single
Not everyone enjoys or wants the companionship dynamics of dating and marriages. Human beings are very different. Some people will see mingling and marriages and happily ever-afters as myths they do not intend to be part of.


It's normal to want or not want to be in a companionship. Society has expectations. We are expected to date, get married, have children and when we don't follow the "conventional growth" people start to wonder. It could seem unusual that someone passed on at 90+, childless and having never been in a marriage but it's all really fine. No one has to do what he/she doesn't want to do.