FIXING A RELATIONSHIP AFTER AN AFFAIR

Maybe your partner drifted and had an affair. And you got angry but you forgave that person. And now you have to start fixing the relationship. You must start loving again. But the hardest part is trusting again.

You have two options;

1. Believe that they would not cheat on you again.

2. Decide that you will tolerate the cheating


Believe that they would not cheat on you again.


Once you forgive, you do not want to taunt yourself with negative thoughts of distrust. If you choose to stay, stay and believe that your partner will not cheat again. Replaying it on your mind while still staying is bad for you. Start afresh. Force the trust back in.If you cannot trust again, let it go. No relationship can survive without trust.


2. Decide that you will tolerate the cheating

Some people believe that once you start cheating you cannot stop.Well, that's not true. Cheating is a choice. The same way you choose to start cheating is the very same way you can decide not to cheat again.

But some are serial cheats who will never stop. They probably found someone whom they love or are attracted to more than you and so they chose to play games between the two of you. Or, they really are the type of cheats who enjoy the thrill in having multiple partners. But you still choose to stay. You've decided that cheating is suddenly not a huge dealbreaker to you afterall. Fine. Stay.