We've read and heard enough stories and debates about women only wanting to get involved with wealthy men. There are very many women married to broke or even poor men but that according to male mentality still doesn't count.
But would a man deliberately go out on a date with a broke, unemployed woman -and even marry her?
There's a joke that if a man is annoying you, just send him a message asking him to help you out financially and you'll never hear from him again. Men have not been singing about an "independent woman who has her own" to one day settle down with a woman who has nothing.
Most men are turned off by a woman who has financial issues or problems generally. Times are either too hard for them to help out or they are just mean. It's said that no matter how beautiful a woman is, if she has problems most men would not want anything to do with her.
So here you are lady. You were online minding your no business (ooops own business) then a message popped up. You are single so you are excited about receiving a male inbox.
"Hi!"
What do we do first before we respond to a male inbox? You rush to his profile picture and judge from it if he's worth a reply. If you've been an ardent social media user for long you start getting bored responding to every message you receive. And if you are in for a flirt intending to get into a relationship or sadly, an affair, you start filtering the messages. Some base the filter on looks. Some on marital status, ethnicity, nationality or even age.
If you like the profile picture or whatever that is that makes you respond to some strangers' message and not others, you respond with a;
"Hi."
If he doesn't mess up by asking for "that pic" or your phone number immediately, you could be going on a date soon depending on your conversations. A man has to have a very very impressive profile to have a woman's attention even after breaking all the "online conversation rules" and the three most agree on are;
1.Do not ask for "that pic"
2.Do not ask for the phone number immediately
3. Don't start chatting on and on as if you have no life.
Okay guys?
So after days of chatting you might decide to meet-up. Remember you are broke. You are unemployed. You probably have a hustle that only brings coins so little that you have to save a whole month to do your hair.
And you have to look really good on your date. You have to look like your profile pic or your date would think of you as a fraud.
If you have a young child, you will need a baby-sitter for the day.
You must organize you commuting costs.
He'll probably expect you to chip in with the bill
And depending on what you have been chatting about you would probably need some type of birth control (No judging adult choices. Yes, sometimes you could end up having sex on the first date. Let's move on please, shall we?)
But you think deeply about how much the date will cost you. So you cancel it. Or you go on that date and he starts talking about how he'd like to see you again and again and your head is spinning when you think about handling your expenses every date and you just go missing. You'd like to meet him again but it's not worth it. There's no way you'd be saving just for a date ha ha.
Is this how men feel? When he takes an "independent lady" out but she's bad on his wallet!? So he goes quiet on her after that date because inasmuch as he really likes her he just cannot afford that woman. And too sad on this "unindependent date" who expects him to help her out for her to show up. It's not a right. It depends on whether this man values her enough to want to make it possible for her to always show up.
Have you ever received a text from a guy who's been after you about you not responding to his texts. Like;
Him: Hey, you disappeared yesternight on the chats.
You: Yeah, I had run out of data and airtime.
Him: Ok
Ok? Shouldn't he be wanting to chat with you so much that he just sends you airtime or data?
Or maybe he's also broke.
Dating generally really sucks when broke. For women too.
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